New Year, New Inspiration!

As the first working week of 2014 gets underway, let me wish you a Happy New Year!

I know this is a traditional greeting but suppose you really do want this year to be happy – what are the options? On the face of it, there seem to be two:

  1. You can start doing new stuff
  2. You can stop doing old stuff

You will find one of these options at the heart of most resolutions. You know the sort of thing – ‘do more exercise’; ‘volunteer for a local charity’; ‘give up chocolate’ and so on.

This is exactly how I used to start a new year – setting the combination of goals that I hoped would make me happy. But success was always limited. In fact happiness more often sneaked up on me totally unplanned!

Over the last two years I have come to understand things differently. Happiness is clearly a feeling and feelings always come from whatever thoughts we are thinking at the time. So happiness cannot come directly from goals or achievements.

The funny thing I’ve noticed is that when I’m feeling happy, there isn’t actually much on my mind at all. The ‘mental load’ is low and whatever thoughts are there are just drifting through. It the same for other people too. We have a natural ability to return to a quiet mind and it feels really nice!

What gets in the way is when we get stuck in our thinking. Although we have no control on what thoughts enter our mind, we do choose whether to hang on to them. If we choose to think more about our thoughts (thinking about our thinking) we can soon pile up thoughts upon thoughts upon thoughts. Such a busy mind does not produce a good feeling.

The good news is that there is no need to be stuck; there is an infinite source of new thoughts. So when you let go of your current thoughts, fresh thoughts will automatically take their place. Inspiration is simply a fresh thought that brings a good feeling.

So as 2014 unfolds, use your feelings as a guide. They will tell you whether your thinking is helpful or self-sabotaging. And with less on your mind, you will return to your natural happiness more and more.

Your Potential – The Best Bit!

Uncovering your potential is great for creating results and reaching your goals.

But there is another dimension which goes completely beyond your ability to achieve. It’s about quality of life: your happiness, well-being and fulfillment.

The good news is that you already have the potential to enjoy all these qualities. There is nothing missing!

This final audio in the series shows you how it works:

Your Potential – The Best Bit!

Note: You can listen to the complete series of all three audios here

Your Potential – Striking Gold

Join me, Trevor Hill, to see how you can strike the gold of your true potential:

Have you ever thought how pointless it is to search for something you already have?
Yet this is what many of us devote years of life towards – looking for that ‘real me’ or ‘true self’ everywhere except where it is. So how come it is so well hidden?

This audio aims to unravel the puzzle – to point you to the gold you already have.
This is the second audio in a series of three – you can listen to the first audio here

Your Potential – Are You Looking In The Wrong Place?

Join me, Trevor Hill, in this audio to discover how you can really find your potential:

When you want to trigger the yet-to-be-seen potential in your life, where do you look?

For years I looked in the wrong place. Perhaps you too? It reminds me of this story:

Late one night Jim sees his neighbour walking round and round a lamp post, obviously looking for something.

“I’ve dropped my keys” says the neighbour.

Jim joins the search and, after some minutes, he asks “Where exactly did you drop them?”

“Over there”, says the neighbour, pointing to the other side of the street.

“So”, quizzes Jim, “Why are you looking here?”

“Because the light is much better here!”

To us, the absurdity is obvious. We know that it’s futile to search where the keys cannot be found.

But what about a much more important case?

Specifically, what about our potential as human beings – your potential and mine?

It’s so easy to go hunting in the wrong place.

Fortunately a couple of years ago I stumbled on the truth. And it’s made a huge difference! This is why I’ve made this audio to explain it.

Smoke and Mirrors

How is your self-image today? Perhaps you see yourself as confident, well-groomed and with a spring in your step? Or maybe your self-image is tired and hesitant with messy hair?

It may be a relief to know that almost everything you think about yourself is wrong! This is because you are always so much more than your self-image. Let me show you.

We are brought up to apply labels to ourselves and others, labels such as ‘I am a shy person’ or ‘she has a caring personality’. We use labels as shorthand for longer and fuller descriptions.

But labels can never be fully accurate. They are often misleading because they become out-dated and they are always limiting because they tell half-truths. Like a magician’s illusion, they are believable misrepresentations.

When we can see past our labels, a wealth of new possibilities opens up in front of us. We become free of self-imposed limitations. 

But we have to recognise the labels in the first place. They come in many forms such as: personality traits, types of behavior, habits, roles, CVs, qualifications, prejudices, beliefs.

We like the good labels, the ones that reflect status and achievement. But even so, these labels can be limiting if you don’t look beyond them. They don’t define you – there is always more.

This is why psychometric test results can backfire. They can be helpful when seen as a single perspective on your behaviour and preferences. But they become a handicap if you adopt them as a personal definition and then curtail your future options in order to be consistent with this adopted definition.

Labels that we categorise as bad bring us down. They bring unwelcome feelings. And if you don’t see past the label, you are stuck with it.

So how do you see past a label?

Simply be seeing it for what it is – a way of thinking about yourself. A label is a bunch of thoughts that shape your self-image. And as a bunch of thoughts, you get to choose how seriously you take them.

If you focus a lot of attention on them, they get bigger and blot out the view beyond. Withdraw your attention from the labels and they shrink so you can see past them and into the infinity of possibilities beyond.

The nice thing is that spotting labels can be fun. You lighten up when you see a label that you have been taking really seriously for a long time is actually just a way of thinking. And you can withdraw your support and allow it to be replaced by new thinking.

Instead of the rigidity of labels, you may notice a pleasant feeling of fluidity encompassing your experience, rather like the distant days of childhood. As the hard-edges of your self-image dissolve, your sense of self comes from a deeper place. It is from this deeper place that you see past the illusion to the truth of who you really are.